May the words of my mouth
and the meditation of my heart
be pleasing in your sight, LORD
my Rock and my Redeemer.
We have all been hurt or offended by someone. But the wounds that go deep into our hearts and seem the hardest to forgive are those that were caused by the people who are suppose to love and care about us.
We often wrap offense like a fanny pack around our waist and carry it wherever we go. Even though it may be heavy and cause us pain, we refuse to give it up, creating a wall of protection, because no one is ever going to hurt us again!
Why Do we get Hurt? & Why do we Hurt others?
Because it's a great distraction for the devil to violate and separate the body of Christ.
We do not know our true identity in Christ.
We carry the offense in our hearts from past experience.
We serve to love rather than love to serve.
We are dislocated, not knowing where we belong.
We choose to be offended rather than to walk in forgiveness and love.
The self in us dominates the Christ in us.
Forgiving can be hard, when what we would rather do is give that person a piece of our mind, Our Heavenly Father would desire for us to give them the love of Christ in us. Because there isn’t one thing that happens in life that was not covered by the blood of Jesus.
Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other's faults because of your love. Ephesians 4:2 (NLT)
When we take offense, it is impossible to be humble or gentle.
Don’t let sin against you produce sin in you. If you can’t find it in Jesus, you shouldn’t want it in you.
Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Proverbs 4:23 (NLT)
Then Jesus said to His disciples, “If any of you wants to be my follower, you must give up your own way, take up your cross, and follow me. Matthew 16:24 (NLT)
Your cross should make the statement of who Christ is. What he died for, not who and what you are. The cross you carry should not represent the trials you're going through. The cross you carry should represent the Christ in you.
Joseph: Was an example of God’s grace. After he was promoted to administrator and his brothers needed his help. He showed them mercy and favor which they did not deserve. Genesis 37:2-50:26
Stephen: Was an example of God’s grace. While he was being stoned to death for doing no wrong he said “Lord do not hold this sin against them.” Acts 7:54-60
Jesus: Was an example of grace. When the soldiers came to arrest Him, Peter slashed off the ear of the soldier, Jesus touched the man’s ear and healed him. Luke 22:47-51
You will know that you have truly forgiven when you can go to the father and say, “Father, don’t hold them accountable for what they have done to me.” Forgive them because they do not know what they are doing.
“But if you withhold forgiveness from others, your Father withholds forgiveness from you.”
When you forgive others, it will set you free.